Time. It heals. It kills. It mends. It destroys. It does a million other things. One thing it doesn’t do – come back. It changes the way you perceive life itself.
Time raises many questions. The kinds we want answers to. The kinds we don’t want asked.
We always have something to regret. Sometimes, those regrets change you. You experience losses and you think “What if?” Here’s a situation. You were angry with your mother before she went shopping. She tried to talk to you but you wouldn’t listen. She said “I love you” but you were so mad that you covered your ears, stormed off to your room and slammed the door. Dejected, with her mind only on you, she goes out. You don’t even say goodbye. A few hours later, you get a call. Your mom got hit by a car and could not make it. You don’t know what happened. You’re in shock. You can’t believe what you just heard. You hit yourself to get up from that horrible nightmare but you just can’t. You begin to cry, experiencing the worst feeling ever. That memory, no matter how much you try to get rid of it, will always haunt you. The “What if?” will wake you from your sleep for years. You lost the most special person of your life and remembering that your last moments with her was full of hate will crush you. However strong you try to be, that will break you.
It changes you. You no longer find joy in life. You only wish you could spend the time you spent with her over and over again, forever. But time is cruel. Once gone, you never get those moments back. They just become cherished memories in your mind. Later in life, you finally move on, but you never forget.
Losing a loved one is hard. You don’t know how to deal with it. You can never stop thinking about them, about what could have been… Whenever you achieve something in life, you always wonder how they would react. You try to do more to honour them. It keeps you motivated and gives you a way to remember them.
Not everyone copes well. Sometimes the loss has such an emotionally crushing effect that the person starts losing his mind. They start hallucinating them which causes them to have a loss in focus. Sometimes people suffer such a setback that they forget how to move ahead in life. It leaves them emotionally and mentally handicapped. They say time heals all wounds, but that presumes the source of the grief is finite. However hard it may be to accept it, the truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward in life. If life knocks us down, it is our choice whether or not to get back up. That choice is a crucial one, however gruelling it may be.
Time is extremely significant, yet highly volatile. Losing time with your loved ones is a huge loss. We hardly realise its essentiality till the moment it has been lost forever and has taken away something very valuable from us. It has a beautiful way of showing what really matters.