Childhood is known to be one of the most important times in a person’s life. During this stage; the person grows, develop important bonds with their family/caregiver, and peers, and most importantly social skills that they can use once they surpass this stage. Not every child has the same childhood, some have a memorable childhood that they want to remember forever, while others have a type of childhood that they just want to forget. If you ever sat and wonder what your childhood was like; you would look back on the things you did, people you met, and the lessons you learned. My childhood was a good one, and I always look back and remember what it was like and what I learned from it. I see my childhood being impacted by the parenting styles my parents used to raise me, internalizing/ externalizing problems that I faced, and as well as the style of play I engaged it. Although these were all important aspects of my childhood, I feel that the one that impacted my the most was the parenting style that was used while I was growing up.
Not every child is raised with the same parenting style even though it might seem that they are because of the common behavior among different children. Some children are raised in an authoritarian household in which the child is expected to follow strict rules and live up to or even exceed certain expectations (ex: a child raised in a military household). Some are raised in an environment where the parents don’t pay attention to their children and this is known as neglectful parenting. These styles of parenting are always considered to be too harsh or even the kind that the child doesn’t deserve. These styles may seem bad but one of the two reasons behind why parents use these styles on there is because that is how they were raised by their parents, or they wanted to avoid the style that was used with them and use a completely different style. The kind of parenting style that I was raised with is called Authoritative parenting. This style of parenting is defined as a style in which the parent would closely interact with the child while maintaining high expectations for their behavior and performance; having strict scheduling and discipline, and at the same time provide the proper resources and support. One example is that when I had gotten home from school, I asked my mom if could play outside; she let me go but told me that I had to come inside once the street lights came out. Although these parenting styles are defending in their own ways it has a huge impact on the child’s behavior especially when they get older. Another aspect that impacted my childhood was how I handles problem solving internally and externally.
Ever wonder whether your problems could be solved either internally or externally; and if so, how would you go about doing that? Although some people solve their issues either internally or externally; surprisingly internalizing is still considered to be the most popular way. Internalizing problems is unsafe way to solve an issue because it causes more harm to them than good; but if you think about its externalizing problem solving is just as harmful. As a child, I mostly solved my problems internally because I felt like it was a better solution for me. One example, when I was young, I got in trouble with my mom, and I was so upset I just stayed in my room and didn’t talk to anyone all day. I felt that this way of internalizing problem solving was a right because I was feeling all kinds of emotions at that moment Not only did internalizing problem solving affect my childhood; the styles of play that I engaged in had played a huge role in my childhood in many ways as well.
Play is a very important aspect during childhood, without being engaged in play children can miss out on important things such as building friendships. Play teaches a child how to build social skills, learn to share and help them create life long friendships. Every child displays different types of play; some stay in the same type of play while other children transition into a different style after some time. As a child I was a social and shy girl and I wanted to meet new people and make friends but at the same time I didn’t know how to do it, so I would keep to myself. Growing up I was one of those kids that transitioned from one type of play to another after a certain period. I had started out in solitary play when I was first exposed to other kids. Solitary play is displayed when a child is alone, and they maintain their focus on their activity. The reason behind this behavior is because the child is uninterested in or unaware of what the other children around them is doing. One example is that on my first day of kindergarten I was shy to play with any of the kids there; so, I sat in the corner and played by myself because I felt more comfortable in that way. After some time, I transitioned from solitary play to cooperative play. This kind of play takes place when the child starts to show interest in both the other children as well as the activity, they’re involved in. One example was that after some time in being in kindergarten I saw that a group of children were playing hide and seek, and I wanted to join in because I was curious as well as interested. Once the game started, I ended up having fun and felt less shy.
Exhibiting cooperative play helped me improve my social skills a great deal; as well as making new friends. Observing children at play has been a rewarding experience for me. From what I’ve observed I’ve seen children being involved more in rough/tumble play over anything other style. One example of rough/tumble play that I saw was when I was at the park. There were a group of children that were running around, screaming, laughing and wrestling. One other thing that I noticed was that the children that were engaging in rough/tumble play were all male. I have always considered play to be an important part of my childhood. Without play I wouldn’t have been able form long lasting friendships and have strong social skills.
Just like every child, my childhood was created in a whole different way using different aspects. The way I was raised by my parents, the way that I solved my issues, and the types of play that I engaged in played a huge role in shaping my childhood. Not only that, vie also observed other children; and see how their childhood has been shaped based off the type of play they chose to engage in. From my childhood I developed amazing long-lasting friendships, learned new things, and transitioned from an introvert to an extrovert. I have discovered that from observing little kids now my childhood wasn’t like theirs is right now, but I was still a happy child.